How Do I Get My Ex-Boyfriend Back Again Three Responses To A Tough Question

I have to admit, when my partner of several years made a decision that he needed a break from our relationship, nearly all I could think about was “How do I get my ex boyfriend back now?”

I was as troubled as another woman could be in that situation, but when I really sat right down to think about it, I saw there were basically three different responses to the old question of “How to get my boyfriend back?” I’ve outlined them all for you here.

Option #1: Go to him

If you’ve just barely split, this is probably the method your heart’s indicating you-no, screeching for you-to use. You want to drive down to his house with French maid’s attire and a bottle of massage oil and apologize, beg, and bat your eyelashes until finally he forgives you.

Sadly, next to pretty much running over his family pet, this is probably the very best way to make sure the split up is final. It makes you look mentally unstable and like somebody who can’t really manage life by themselves.

Occasionally those tearful, lovelorn pleas work on we girls, but they often have the opposite effect on guys, who aren’t as at ease with open displays of emotion like we are. Because of this, even a little thing like sending a mushy love letter is just not a good idea. That’s why I decided this wasn’t the answer to the question of how should i get my ex boyfriend back.

Option #2: Let him come to you!

No! I don’t suggest sitting by the phone all night praying for him to call. I mean going about your life as if you’d never met Mister what’s-his-name, only stopping to let each and every mutual friend of yours discover that you’re still single and theoretically prepared to speak to your ex.

If you honestly think your guy will quickly come to realize what a blunder it was to let you go (eg he’s done this earlier), you’re probably safe with this route. Otherwise, though, it’s fairly risky.

You’re counting on the fact that he’s still thinking of you when in fact he may be off on Caribbean cruise interested in anything but his ex-girlfriend.

Option #3: Work through friends!

Recruiting mutual company to help in reuniting you and your guy is not just helpful, it’s also a perfectly respectable, in contrast to the French maid outfit thing. The reason this works is because his friends will be able to frame your own outpouring of longing in the manner your guy can relate with and, more to the point, that doesn’t freak him out.

The secret here is to choose one and only one of his close friends to help you out. Don’t begin calling everyone whose number you have in hopes of overwhelming him with attacks from all sides.

You’ll mutually dilute the effect and make yourself look desperate. Just pick one pal and ask if they’d been prepared to convey a message to your ex. If yes, be as open and truthful as you can be about what took place and how you’re feeling.

I can tell you, staying home wondering “How do I get my ex boyfriend back?” won’t do you much good. In the end, you have the best chance of winning him back by signing up a friend of his for help. However, you can improve on the options above by seeking recommendations of a professional relationship therapist.